Although I'm not second guessing my initial approach to my sitch, I have been feeling lately like I might have been a little slow in changing over to more of the tough love approach. Definitely what my W needs right now, for sure.
Hey, maybe I should check out this tough love book? What's the name? Is it geared just toward men, or also women?
I'm glad you are not second guessing your original stance toward W. I completely agree that you are thrown into a sitch you have never dealt with before so you can only go forward in trying new approaches. NEver judge yourself for not knowing early on what else can be done. We as humans are just not built that way. We continue down the same old roads in hope of finding a new end. Only when we come to the same end many times do we consider a new road. The unknown is scary, and we need to tread slowly and carefully with lots of support. And that's why we're here for each other - to help light the way toward new paths and stick by each other as we try a variety and find one that ultimately works. It takes time. Lots of time. I'm not a patient woman. But I see you and all the friends on this forum trying their new paths and making changes. If we can't stop what didn't work in the past and try anew, how can we have a new life - and a new self - and ultimately a new marriage.
