Old "newbie" needs help FAST!!! Please respond!!

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Thanks Ginab. Well sitting home on a Friday night as well. The wife passed out on the couch after a few glasses a wine. We were watching the office that I had recorded. Laughing together. Almost seemed like old times...

Not sure if is was right, but I didn't go to her mom's for her birthday. All I needed was for my W to just say I'd like you to go vs. You Can Come.. I didn't and I felt good standing up for myself for a change.

Well I waited all week for an answer about going to Retrouville. On my way out to work this morning after the kids left for school, I said you still don't have an answer. She said she needed to think about it still this weekend Is divine intervention supposed to happen this weekend?? I am taking my sons to the Notre Dame football game in South Bend, Indiana. We are from the Chicago area. I think we can say that on this website.

Strange comment she made tonight. She said to our sons, it is nice that Daddy takes you every year to the game. That is a nice tradition you have with him. It almost felt like a send off... She is going away for the weekend with a friend of hers that is an angry woman who never got married, who thinks she should get a divorce. Great support group..I am not holding my breath I guess.

I got some perspective today. I went golfing with a friend of mine to take his mind off his daughter this afternoon. About 6 months ago, she complained of a pain in her leg on a tuesday. They took her to the hospital. By Thursday, she was diagnosed with bone cancer in her leg that had spread to her lungs and had a 10 percent chance of living. If that doesn't give us perspective, I don't know what does. As we were talking today, he told me that his parents divorced when he was 12. I have known him for 15 years and he never mentioned it. He said that until he was 21, he was a complete mess. Didn't care about anything or anyone. The divorce affected him so deeply. I still can't believe how selfish our spouses can be. That they can't see what is right in front of them.

That has to make you feel so good what your daughter said. You sound like a great mom. I can't tell how good it feels when my sons just say I love you dad before they go to bed. It just kills me to think as I am sure it does you what their lives are going to be like if there is a divorce. Their little souls will never be the same. They are too you young to have to endure this kind of pain...But our spouses really can't see that can they. They only see their happiness..

Anyway, I will let you know how it goes as soon as I get the answer...

Take care and have a good weekend.