So I broke down and called the X to check on my D. Tried to make arrangements for visitation and began discussing what my D has been doing.
I tried to discuss getting my daughter for a full weekend when I miss a weekend due to my work (it was in the visitation plan court order that we were to make alt arrangements to make up the time missed). X wanted to do Sundays overnight for weekends missed. Last Sunday I did not get her until 5pm and had to have her back before I go to work on Monday early. Not much time to spend with her to take away a full weekend. When compare the two. I would prefer to have a full weekend vs. three Sundays. X recently told me she doesn't get much quality time when she comes home from work and has to be back at work the next day. Same concept, but we all know it is a double standard for them.
Last weekend I was supposed to get my D and she had already made plans. How crazy is that? She said I could get her on Sunday and b/c that was better than not seeing my D, I agreed to get her. Today she tells me that I "lied" b/c "I told her that I would do the Sundays to make up the weekend and now I am saying I did not say that."
How do you handle that. This is my time with my D and per prior posts on here, I am told to stand my ground. As I tried to do that tonight she basically tells me that the only reason I see my D is to get back at her. I really don't care about my D and only b/c I pay child support and want to feel like I am getting something back for my money do I even get my D.
X asks me how often I get my older D. I just try to divert the conversation somewhat. She asks again, I tell her everyday kiddingly. I get her like every Tues evening. She knows this. She says "see you are a liar". whatever...
X says everyone knows I am a bad person. Negative, rude and the list goes on and on. she says I just try to argue with her. If you don't agree with her she argues with you and says it is all you arguing with her. wow...
She keeps asking me what book i have read or what therapist have I been seeing b/c I keep saying "I understand how you feel that way", I can see how you feel / percieve that", etc. She say I am talking in circles. Probably b/c I keep trying to obtain some agreement on visitation. We need some C - bad...
I said I did want to get her on Sunday, but don't want that to be towards my full weekends. She says I could not get her. I try to reason with her again to see D and x says she will check her calendar on Monday. wow.. I am like what about Sunday.. She says she will have to think about it and call me back. What a trip...
Please give me some guidance here. I need some help. The aliens have taken over. I try to be understanding. Before I know it, we were on the phone like 45 minutes. way too long.. Please help a guy out..
She says she will have to think about it and call me back. What a trip...