I'm in too, throw the bum out! Talk about having his cake and eating it too! I don't want you to be bitter or angry, but here is a fine 180 to pull on him. Tell him that he can stay at a Motel 8 where he's expected to pay for the services you are providing.
I also think that you could send a strong message to your H by having a party on the night he leaves. Why not have a girls night out at your house? Do whatever you want, drink wine, make quilts, bash men as long as you have your friends around you on the day he leaves. I'm sure doing this would suprise him, I'm sure he thinks you'll be at home sobing over him or something to that extent.
I just don't want you to feel walked on by your H. You are too kind of a woman and deserve better. I feel like you are letting him get away with things. Besides, anyone that lets you go is a loser. I've seen your work in action at the beach, I couldn't believe all you said to me was "You are a messy cook" After all that you did that night, I was sure to get a fry pan to the head! If you did all that for me, I know you do tons more for your H. I think that you are way too good for him.
Good luck, I hope that your days of walking on eggshells are over soon.
Berto
I believe that dreams are more powerful than facts,that laughter is the only cure for grief. And I believe that love is stronger than death
