Well, this is my take on the situation now. With you feeling like you do about the C and not agreeing about what to talk with your H at the session......I really think it would be best if your H went alone. You have not started this good and you already are out of patient. If you want a man who is in MLC, then as I told you earlier, you may be looking anywhere from 3-5 years until he comes out of the fog. What he may or may not do while he's in that fog is anyone's guess, but I'l tell you one thing you can depend on from him......unpredictable. Never, ever "assume" that he'll do something b/c a person in MLC will not do what a grown up person is expected to do. They will not act responsible. You cannot depend on them. So......you are in for a long, long rollercoaster ride if you want to have him back again.
Frankly, I think he needs to stick to IC b/c you already "know" what you want, but it is your H who doesn't know what he wants in his life. He needs C for MLC. If he will not agree to attend a retreat b/c of its regligious bases for working on the M, then there is not much to do about that. Has he always been turned off by God or the Church? Although, MLC can cause you to turn from that way of life and you don't want anyone craming relioug down your throat......or even mentioning it!
Don't expect him to want to talk about reconciling "if" he is in MLC. I don't know that he is, but I'm saying "if" he is, then you'll set yourself up for hurt by thinking he's normal until he gets through this. Again, I encourage you to visit the MLC forum board. That is the place that knows about this sort of thing. That is where I was for a while and there were great people who helped me.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
