I'm new wondering if this works...

[BigJohn]

BTW, a great book I found out about on these boards is "How To Improve Your Marriage Without Talking ABout IT." It has given me some insight as to why my H may be so full of anger and blame - it's actually shame/inadequacy based. For feeling like a "failure" in our M. Also H would not understand my (natural female) fear of abandonment and isolation. Talks about how men deal with shame by "fight/flight" which triggers female's fear of isolation and round and round we go.

Hope,

I'm sorry to hear about your H's latest blow up. Good grief! In lieu of an adult sized binky perhaps some warm milk in a sippy cup might calm him down. Sounds like you are hanging in there though.

Regarding the above book- I'm not familiar with it- what does it say about WAWs like my W? Do the feelings of abandonment still apply (since they are self-inflicted to some degree) or are there other more prominent feelings? Would be curious to know.

I'll try to check up on you later. Have a great weekend.