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My best friend told me I'm a big, fat loser (or that is how H will view me) and a pushover for letting him stay here the next two weeks. I just keep having that run through my head. I see the danger in other's advice, they see your pain and react to it. I don't want to be a pushover, but I don't want to be the one who forces him to leave, it needs to be his decision. I want to continue to honor my vows, even in this horrible time.



I do not want to be rude, but your BEST friend should be helping you, not be adding to your woes. I do not see how can you be a pushover for letting him stay in the house. If you were begging him to stay or something... In any case, it is your life and your M, not hers. Do what you think is right for you. But think before you act

I would just ignore him. Do what you think you have to do regardless of what he thinks of it. Be yourself, and take care of yourself. Do not be aggressive or rude or bitter towards him, just do not include him in your plans. Act as if he had already left and you had some acquaintance staying over for a couple of weeks.

And start going out on your own, even if it is only to the movies. Take advantage of his being there and leave him to babysit Surprise him. Let him glimpse the Jackie he is going to miss

"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little" Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"