For those with a WAS...How do you cope?

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Oh I forgot to add this: My MIL sent me an email saying she was having family taco night on Sunday. She was extending an invitation to me, H and our DD. Hum...what to do about this? In the past, I've gone to these kind of events bc I wanted the 3 of us to spend time together as a family. But, now that I've started this no contacting stuff, it doens't seem like a good idea.

H hasn't said anything about it and he will NOT say, "I want you to come" if anything he will say, "You are welcome to come" - would it be better for me to decline to help him see that I'm not playing the games and not really interested in seeing him or spending time with him until he decides to put some effort into our marriage?