Staying away from the things that seem to be an avenue to get you back into that area you are trying hard to avoid is a very important key to staying strong. The devil knows our weaknesses and he will use different things to try to break us down, but the Lord promised that He would give us strength to overcome. The devil cannot tempt us beyond what we can handle (I don't think) b/c it is always about our "choice" in things of this life. If it was a temptation stronger than our will, then we would have no choice about it, and the whole purpose of what Satan was really trying to do would be wasted. (Which is a matter of opinion in how people believe, but that is how I see it.)


I realize you are dreading next Monday, but keep remembering that a divorce does not mean the complete end. It may be the death of this M for you and your wife, but hopefully, a new R will start between the two of you and you'll have a new M. Right? Don't lose hope, b/c I think often times people relax and begin to actually become friends after a D. Of course, not all people do, but your W has been showing some little positive steps that look promising to me. Your part will be to give her space & time b/c she really needs that to heal. It doesn't mean that you'll "never" get another chance. Don't tell her that b/c she might not be too open to that suggestion right now......but that is what I feel. You need to make that your point of focus throughout this weekend and through the meeting Monday. Just keep thinking that you'll have another chance and you will do a much better job the second time around.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!