Just finished in clinic and checking the boards briefly. Your message to shockedinga was really meaningful. Thanks for sharing. It really helped me.
Since I've been thinking about things I might change in my sitch I thought I would suggest trying something new if you think the time is right in your sitch. It doesn't have to be major. Then you can monitor for W's response.
Is there anything that might bring back sweet memories for your W from the past? This way she may associate the pleasant experience with you. Fragrances activate the brain at very basic levels. Is there a fragrance that might bring back a pleasant memory you both shared? In autumn, apples and cinnamon, the scent of leaves (maybe not in the southeast?), burning wood in neighborhood fireplaces with the start of cooler weather? Do you have a firepit in your backyard that you could light to roast marshmallows with your kids? That could be a way to draw W into a group activity without a verbal invite......Just thinking.....Women like to feel secure...and there is something about autumn that always makes me want to "nest".
