Magnificent

[Virtually_Handsome]

((((((Mishka))))))

That was quite a letter.

I think I like where your C is heading. I'm glad you are going, and I think it is going to help. Just be patient, because I don't think it's going to be quick!

We all know that you are a great person. You've had some experiences that have made you question everything. I think that working through them is going to help, and in the end you will see that you are valuable too!

[Andabelle]

Just caught up on your thread... do they have an Autism Society of America chapter in your area?

[mishka422]

Unfortunately no. There are only two in GA and they are both about 2 hours away.

[mishka422]

As usual I'm stuck closing the store Saturday night. It's my childless weekend but I'll spend my Saturday night working. Boo hoo! Someday........:)

High note! Tuesday my BFIGA (Best friend in GA) and I are going to see U2. I'm taking her to the coolest place for dinner beforehand to celebrate her freedom (her D was final in August). It's a persian restaurant and hooka lounge. FUN! Sitting on floor pillows, great interesting food, and great atmosphere!

[kat727]

I hope you took Wednesday off!! Good for you. I am sorry that you have to work but think of Tuesday as a great trade off. Sounds like a blast.

kat

[Reincarnated]

U2?! I haven't been to a concert since I had kids! That is not something that someone with "no life" gets to do - hold onto the event in your heart for a while!

[mishka422]

I will. I'm a bit of a concert-a-holic. I can't afford to go as often as I'd like but when a major event comes in I try to go. Would have loved to see Metallica Sunday night here but alas, couldn't get free seats and definitely couldn't afford to buy them.

I've taken Marc to see Keith Urban a couple of times and he loved that. I was thinking of taking him to this but he doesn't really know a lot of U2's music so it would be just more of a spectacle for him than anything else. More fun with my BFF.

[mishka422]

Venting.......

So I was brushing my teeth this morning and my phone started ringing. It was Marc. Very strange for him to call me when he's at his dad's so I grabbed the phone, toothbrush in mouth, mumbling around the foam. Marc sounded pretty dejected and said he was coming home. I asked if he meant now, he said yes, right now. I asked him why and he admitted that he and ow's son got into an argument and Marc ended up scratching him on the forehead. I, once again, told him that he had no business engaging ow's son in any kind of argument as he is 6 years younger. Just walk away and certainly never touch him in any way. Marc said he knew that but he was just so upset and ow's son wouldn't stop pestering him. I hung up with him and thought about it a few minutes, calming myself, because once again Gabe has decided it is better to just bring Marc back to me instead of parenting him while it is his time with him.

I called Gabe then and asked him to explain what happened. His explanation was the same. I then asked him why he felt it was appropriate to 'punish' Marc by bringing him home instead of being a parent and handling the situation there. He said he has done that over and over...blah blah blah...I did haul off with a snide comment about how being a parent a couple of times a month was not over and over and if he couldn't handle him for that short a time then perhaps we need to reevaluate these weekends and that's when he had a very mature response.....he said 'don't start on me' and hung up. His typical reaction to being confronted with anything. He doesn't want to talk about anything that remotely reminds him that he's not 'father of the year' material. Yes, I was snarky. I know that. I really don't care at the moment. He is once again running from responsibility.

I called him back, left him a vm (since he wouldn't answer the phone) telling him that it was an immature response and stating that if he couldn't or didn't want to maintain weekends with Marc that was fine and he could have minimal contact with him from now on. Not a problem. No response.

I texted him the question I wanted to ask him. "And is ow's son being sent home too?" His response...."yes, he is". I see, so neither one of them is adult enough to parent their child. Good job!

Marc then called me again. Said his dad is taking him to a movie to spend more time with him. I was glad to hear that at least Gabe thought about what I said about the point of these visits being to spend time with him, not to entertain ow's son. I did text Gabe again to tell him I was glad that he was spending more time today with Marc.

You know, I know how I probably sound. I sound very b!tchy. It's not lost on me, but I get really nasty when my baby is treated like a second class person by his own father. He is treated as an annoyance in Gabe's perfect little happy life being oblivious of the damage he caused to our son with his actions. Then, for him to reject Marc over and over because of his behavior it's just a slap in the face to me and more pain for Marc.

So....vent over. I'm getting it out in order to let it go. I hope it's working.

[BobbiJo]

I am sure that had to be extremely frustrating for you. I don't know what I will do if/when I am faced with a similar situation...

[mishka422]

To top it off I had to be the bad guy this evening. When Marc came home he called a friend who asked if he could come over to watch the Broncos/Cowboys game with him (Marc is loving the Broncos right now just because Knowshon Moreno is playing for them). I told him he could, but he had to be in the house not one minute after 6pm. If he didn't get back by then he could not go to the air show this weekend with his friend. Guess what? He didn't make it home in time so now he can't go. Now I'm the spawn of satan ruining his life. GREAT!