Jackie, I vote with Lee and Manisha. Live 'as if' he has left. Make plans for you and the kids and if he wants to come along it is his call but do not go out of your way for him. Do what you feel is right for you.
In my sitch, things started to turn around when I stopped caring about what he did. Then H started to look for me and seek time with me. Might work for you too. And if it does not, you are not worse off: you are still on your own.
I still think it is going to work out, but it will take time... Patience is the key.
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
