Maybe it is time to stop playing the perfect W and just be you. I have been reading your sitch for a really long time now. You've tried to be perfect and do all the right things to draw him back in maybe it is finally time to detach and just let him see how it is with out you there to support him in all of his things. It seems to me that the perfect W thing isn't working. The book does say to do what works so try doing somthing different.
