The killer is that i get okay...but I cave in. And I know from really listening or reading his correspondence that he is in pain, he is hurting.
He turned on me in our recent conversation and I wanted to freak out and I just asked him what hurt? what caused him to lash out like that?
Unfortunately it was basically that he feels like even with his GF, I am being negative (implying she could conceivably break up with him) and I am like his mom and why can't I just not get entangled and enmeshed...
Well, helllooooo stalker man.
anyway, i said that i am willing to talk to him and hear him but I can't hear about her or be compared.
and that I need him to see me as I am (which obviously can't happen while he's got her).
Obviously there was more and it was disturbing and crass and he typed in all caps "I NEED HELP"...and I suggested not discuss our R or his GF or any decisions until he gets that help.
He did many years of therapy with a regular therapist...he needs miracle worker. And so do I (left a message last night).
