Divorced and want to reconcile...

[dday101798]

In catching up on this and taking in others inputs a little thought occured to me.

IF my XW were to infact reach her epiphany and make a full fledged attemp to come back, what would she have to say to me? What would silence the overprotectiveness of my own subconscience now?

Would it be her professing her feelings of regret and remorse? Would it be her professing her desire to set the wrongs things right? No, I think not.

What would? Well, as phoenix eludes, some spark, her presentation of herself. That would get things going in the right direction.

I mean, even as it is now, when my XW has expressed her feelings, I questioned it for a little and then let it go. But, yet, it's the times when she says barely anything, and threw a a sneakish grin in at the end of saying the slightest little thing, that's what burns my curiosity. It's easy to question why we say the things we do, but harder to assertain the things we do.

I guess the point is I'm trying to get at, is just the same as when a LBS 'persues' the WAS with begging and pleading, it pushes the WAS away, so thus the same when the WAS becomes the LBS and does the same, should it not net the same result?