Yes there are many schools of thought on it. Which is the right option? Only the LBS knows what the right choice is for them.
You could ignore the affair, not feel right about it and watch your selfesteem go down the toilet.
You could give the ultimatum, but you better be ready for either outcome.
Or you could let it play out, taking care of yourself in the meantime, maybe end up with a better marriage, maybe not but you will hopefully be in a better place with yourself.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
