I don't want to divorce

[ClingingToHope]

I'm interested in the decision to let him have the kids and the house. I made the same decision -- for different reasons -- and when I do have the girls I keep going out of my mind wondering what my W is doing.

My W wanted the house and she's regretting that, I think. It's very big and hard to maintain. I'm afraid it's so much work that she really doesn't have any time to consider if she's missing me.

The 24-year-olds? That's interesting as well. In my case, almost all of my friends my age are married so there's not much chance for social interaction there. The friends from work who aren't are in their late 20s. So when I'm not working my second job -- to keep the money troubles from driving me crazy -- I'm going out with them and their girlfriends and their girlfriends' friends, who are in their 20s.

It's a strange thing to do. Fun in a way, but I keep thinking I should be home putting my daughters to bed.

Eventually, the fun of hanging out with younger people is going to fade. He'll figure out he's not from their generation and there won't be much to talk about. The older man stuff you see in the movies just doesn't happen that often.

Still, it's going to take a lot of time.