It turns out guy friend was in a pissy mood then kicked her out because he didn't want me to get mad again
Again? More to that story that I didn't see posted there.
Lost I really like the way you think and handle this.
I have to admit that there was a bunch to read and process and during it, points I wanted to make were overwritten by other points.
Several that stick out.
Boundaries. Only make them if you can enforce them. If you cannot or will not enforce them you are a paper tiger.
You go out alot for being financially tight...example movies with kids. Netflix is cheaper.
Of course your friends are going to think she is a douchebag, stop talking to them about her.
We do live in a "Me" society. Everyone is entitled and no one is responsible. : )
I like the way you are handling this and yourself even with the limitations you find yourself under.
Keep up on the self improvements.
I am guessing that you have no nearby family to help with the kids...there are support groups in almost all neighborhoods, you put in to get out. Might look into something like that.
You want her out...help her out. I am not saying give up, I am saying let her choke on the space she wants.
Most telling to me about this likely being MLC...and I am not a professioanl...is that you posted that she wasn't sure she wanted a divorce...recently, she just wanted some space and time.
I'll be able to keep more current with your posts now, just want you to know it seems like you are doing a good job.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
