I think your lists are funny. However, we all know two things: 1) none of those items would make you love your stbx again and 2) he'd neglect the list and get you something electronic anyway, so there is no point in making a list in the first place.
I think you have every right to be angry and want to hurt him. You've done all the work and you feel like you've sacrificed your own personal happiness for the chance to fix your M. That is completely natural and as this proceeds, your anger will subside and become more disappointment and sadness at what has occured.
Ultimately, you'll come to pity stbx instead of hate him. You'll accept his flaws and come to see that regardless of how much pain he put you through, it was all for the best of you, your future and your children.
You'll always hope for him to "get it" and become healthy and happy, but you'll lose the urge to be w/him again.
It has been said over and over again throughout your now #66 threads, but your main opponent is time. The more time passes, the better you feel, but for now, time can't pass soon enough.
Stbx saying he's trying to "convince you" is also sad. He can't control your thoughts and no amount of "convincing" will help his cause. In fact, the more he tries to "convince" the more you'll resist and will only galvanize your decision to move on w/your life.
Stbx will not get this until he's able to see how he can't go through life trying to control and manipulate people. Until that light goes on in his head, he'll continue down the path.
Again, keep pressing him for the D for your sake so you can move on. He will have 1-year to "change your mind" but until he's forced to act, he'll continue to delay and deny.
