Keep Your Hands Offa My Mojo

[hoosiermama]

well, yeah. you're both hurting badly right now. maybe Mrs. SP's pain is more visible, more out there because she's spewing every emotion (mostly negative) imaginable. But this

You mean the way I was? When I was told, "Just get over it"? "Too little, too late"? "I have no feelings for you"?

is pretty horrific pain too. and it's still there or you most likely wouldn't have quoted.

so you can both sit on different continents and be cold and spew and shut down and shut out--and it won't get you anywhere. or you can continue to "GAL" as they say--and as you've been doing--and get your head out of the rut, and get out of your head. and you've been going along fine until the Mrs. begins to bleed all over the place, and it's hard to ignore and it's hard to respond to--but it definitely produces pain. or coldness, to protect yourself.

how would it be to just acknowledge her pain, don't play into the "who hurt who first," acknowledge that you're also hurting, and just limit contact for the time being until the bleeding stops. you'd be validating, you'd be showing compassion, and you'd also be setting a boundary and protecting yourself and not contributing to the roller coaster ride y'all are currently on. just a truce, a chance to catch your breath, to remove all pressure. the thing is, your resolve has to be such that her behavior doesn't yank you back out of whatever serenity you might be able to achieve.