Sounds like you've got the right attitude (as far as I can tell). You are right though - as long as there's someone else, just "being friends" likely will not cut it.

Me: 35
W: 31
D10, S7, S2, S11 months
M: 11 years
Tricked into separation.
In Last Resort.

My story:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1800530#Post180053