Tricked into seperation

[lonelywolf]

Well, that was fun.

She just sent me an e-mail upon finding out I filed for conciliation/mediation. Keep in mind, conciliation is not about saving the marriage - this is a no-fault divorce state. Instead, its about helping both of us settle amicably if at all possible. (for example, that phone call that ended early on Tuesday - well, she admitted to listening in and ending the call because I talked about something "inappropriate" with my oldest son - apparently I can't ask him how his siblings are doing. I'm only allowed to talk about him. So he didn't accidentally hang up me - she deliberately cut it short. She refuses to communicate at all and will not let me know what she wants or is doing.

So, here is latest e-mail (slightly edited to hide confidential details):

I found out today that you have filed for conciliation services. This will not change my mind, I still plan to get a divorce, and I really wish that you would stop harassing me by trying to force me in to counseling. I was hoping that for the sake of the kids and for the cost of the thing that we could settle this amicably, but the choice is yours.

I AM DIVORCING YOU. I AM DIVORCING YOU. I AM DIVORCING YOU. I AM DIVORCING YOU. I AM DIVORCING YOU. I AM DIVORCING YOU. DO YOU GET IT YET?

Frankly, that's pure self-deception and anger on her part. The counseling is so we can settle amicably if we have to. Since she refuses to communicate with me, yet keeps cutting off my access to the kids and spending my money without letting me know in advance - well, whatever. The above e-mail sounds more like her mother than her. She's clearly under her parent's power.