Wife just came home to pack for her business trip. I was upbeat, friendly and spoke briefly with her. I got dressed for my morning walk, said an upbeat "bye" and left the house before she did. Every natural instinct was to stay in the house and try to spend a few minutes with her. But I didn't. I kept my DB principles in my head and acted the way I should, not the way I wanted. I take pride in those little things.
Wife has been gone for almost a full day and no contact from her. I am keeping my promise to myself not to contact while she is away on business. Just had to come here and type that out to make sure I live it.
She didn't even ask. She just called me for no real reason, since we have not spoke since she went out of town on business a couple days ago. I made a point of not being the first to contact. I also just reached one of my goals (kinda) - to have her call me for no specific reason. I keep kinda making my goals - but there is always a bit of a condition.
She then called back to see if I was ok with going to Thanksgving dinner at her father's house. We are somewhat estranged from him, but she thought I might be "uncomfortable cosnidering our situation". I simply said "we should go" since this will definitely be her ailing Grandmother's last Thanksgiving (if she can even make it). In reference to our situation, I said "life goes on".
A short time later I called wife back with great news. I finally found our family a new doctor - but my wife is the one who really needs one and the search was 99% for her. She gave me a real "Thank You".
Not a bad hour or so?????????
When we are home together tonight, I will be my usual upbeat, happy guy but still give her space.
Anybody have a great greeting that I can use when I walk in the door tonight? Something that conveys I missed her, am glad to see her - but does not sound needy?
Anybody have a great greeting that I can use when I walk in the door tonight? Something that conveys I missed her, am glad to see her - but does not sound needy?
