No, not really. Remember that with me, what motivated me to actually leave and file was discovering his affair with my best friend.
Not like I was innocent, mind you - but it's a bit different than your standard WAW. I was ready to move forward *with him*, and it was in trying to go to him to talk about it that I discovered the A.
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
My sitch - Divorce Busted! http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1804137#Post1804137
No, not really. Remember that with me, what motivated me to actually leave and file was discovering his affair with my best friend.
Not like I was innocent, mind you - but it's a bit different than your standard WAW. I was ready to move forward *with him*, and it was in trying to go to him to talk about it that I discovered the A.
Sorry. I knew there was some history there, but wasn't sure of the details. Thanks. So that begs the question: what changed your mind about him?
His changes did. It took several months, and I wasn't to the point where I was ecstatically happy and madly in love again. But I was at the point where I would have committed to working on/saving the M, would have kicked OM to the curb, etc.
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The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
My sitch - Divorce Busted! http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1804137#Post1804137
STill trying to find online games for us, EB. I found a few sites, but they gave a warning that they might hurt my computer. Hopefully tomorrow I'll find something else!
EB, just read though some of your threads and am sorry for what you are dealing with. My sitch is similiar, however, wife just moved out today to her apartment. It will be intersting to see how that goes. Of course I wonder about all the rest, but have decided to take it day-byday. I am preparing for any eventuality, although my detachment is slower than I wished for. Today's departure might hasten my ability to completely detach.
I will be checking in regularly to see how things are progressing.
ME 41, Her 41 M 18.5 years T 19.5 years s - 12, 10 Bomb 7/12/09 Inhouse Seperation 7/13/09 - 10/1/09 She moved out 10/1/09 - present
Sorry you find yourself here Shell. At least you'll find people who can understand and relate. When I get to a computer instead of my phone I will jump over and check out your sitch.
Hang in there.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
I have the day off of work today. When W got home from dropping S off at school she saw me in bed still and was being playful with me. (I didn't tell her I was off today. she was telling me to get up)
since she was being playful I invited her in. We playfully snuggled for a few mins. I thanked her for it and got up and ready for the day. She was a little withdrawn when I came downstairs but not too bad.
I left to go out and called her a couple hours later to ask if she would mind if I took S to see Toy Story tomorrow. She saidd she did mind because she wanted to take him. I suggested that we go together and she agreed. (she was kind of weird about it though)
So, we're doing something together as a family tomorrow.
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Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
