Is that rule true? That's where discernment, experience, really listening come in with a side order of compassion, validation and empathty.
Understand what spew is: It's hurt, anger, frustration, confusion, remorse, guilt, (insert your favorite negative emotion) all being directed at you. Not how guys fight but it is good that it is being directed at you. It's going to come out - either on you and you have a opportunity to shine or she spews somewhere else. Reread her worry that you will be laughing at her - spewing with someone else.
It matters that you validate and address some of the fears, they are old fears dressed up a new way.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
