yeah, she's hurting over something that she knows she's caused but can't admit it yet because she has to get her mojo to a point of at least minimal capacity or the admission will destroy her
What you're seeing is a woman who's reaping what she sowed, and the enormity of that reaping is crashing down on her. Take the anger, shame, guilt, manipulations, feelings - roll into a tidy ball, and do a flying leap into the middle of it.
She didn't cause this. THEY caused this. Greek
My comment was only about her feelings - I agree it is a mutual crash. This is why divorce is so prevalent! It is not easy to work through the years of accumulated crap, and make it out golden on the other side.
However, I've heard colloquially that if you DO make it through, your marriage is like a rock?
