Keep Your Hands Offa My Mojo

[hoosiermama]

yes, Greek. and here's the thing. so many people don't draw the distinction between unconditional love and healthy boundaries. loving unconditionally doesn't mean that we become a doormat or leave our own needs behind (and that was a profoundly painful and difficult lesson for me to learn). it doesn't mean that we accept mistreatment or abuse. being a boundary-less doormat isn't wise or healthy; marriage just isn't a zero-sum game. it is, to me, the epitome of maturity and wholeness to grasp--and live--with boundaries, with forgiveness, and with unconditional love. what that looks like will be different for each relationship and each person, and perhaps takes a lifetime to develop (altho for some people fortunate enough to grow up in a family on the healthier end of the dysfunction spectrum, having the example makes it much easier to internalize). but it doesn't mean losing oneself in loving another.