I agree with you all, and I had said a while ago that he could still be "friends", but now I think that is a no go because I AM NOT going to complete. It is either me or her. Thank you all so much! Just writing has been great, but hearing from people who have gone or going through the same thing helps so much. I have gotten so much stronger in the past month. Yea everything still hurts, and I still cry at times when there are memories, but I am finally getting on with my life, and it feels good because I have dealt with this type of situation for years while we were dating, engaged and now married, but I am at peace and really feel free! smile

Me29 S3
H left 4/1/09
I file 8/2/10
Divorce final 5/17/11
1st http://www.tinyurl.com/25lhu52
2nd http://www.tinyurl.com/2c35ueg
3rd http://www.tinyurl.com/322yk89