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I've asked my W if she's had any further contact with the OM


Why are you doing that? It's not like she says she wants to reconcile with you and you want to make sure he's out of the picture first. Those kind of probing questions are just pursuing.

The first mistake you made was moving out....had you stayed the answer would be easy, of course you don't sell because you are still living there. But you moved out. On the practical side, are there positives to selling this condo and if things work out in the future, buying something else? Are prices at a point where you will just be losing money by selling? Do you have a lot of equity tied up in this condo?

At this point I would make my decision based on what is right FOR YOU, not for the marriage. If this is costing you monthly (while not even living there), then maybe it would be best to let it be sold. If you never reconcile what would you do with this condo?

Last edited by Phoenixdeux; 10/02/09 03:36 PM.
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