Greek in your own situation, were you able to accept your spouse as is and love him unconditionally or did you walk away from your marriage until your spouse showed the kind of changes you needed to be able to love him again.
Did SP's wife love him unconditionally despite all his faults?
"Yeah but..."
There it is, the big ol' BUT!
We can toot that "unconditional love" horn but love is largely conditional, I know it's hard for everyone to admit this but I think admitting this to be the truth is what frees you from your current actions & expectations from your partner.
Are you saying 'yeah, but...' or are you anticipating that I will say that? Because I will not. I don't have a single reservation about "tooting" the unconditional love horn b/c I know it, I give it and I receive it. My children know it, my mother loves this way *now* and Coach and I love each other this way. And boy oh boy, is it going out on a limb to do it ~ which may be why a lot of people won't.
Toot ~~~ Toot
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