No question, A&K. From what SP writes (for this is all we have to go on) seems to me that she is a Big Girl and she's owning it. And yeah, it's hurting her. But the pain she put on display for SP most recently probably goes deeper than The Schmuck and misgivings she has in that arena.
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I don't see that she's owning any of this. Based on SP's posts, the exchange of angry emails doesn't portray owning anything. They seem more like temper tantrums to me.
She sure has owned it. Read back. But what she won't own - and shouldn't - is the fairy tale that she walked away from a very good marriage to a supportive, loving and emotionally available spouse. She admits her A with The Schmuck. She's even bracing herself for possible revenge from SP (re # 4 in her list of fears). I don't read entitlement mentality in this chick at all.
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