Jackie, I'm going on a year of hearing that my H doesn't have husband feelings for me. Oddly, he spends a lot of time with me and seems to think I'm attractive. Obviously there is more going on with my H than our R being troubled. I think he is troubled.
My H did the same thing when he came over (voluntarily) to spend labor day with my family. He skulked at the edges, went away to other rooms, watched television with the little kids and even said one of the rudest things he has said to me in a long time. I wanted to punch him. He doesn't talk to any of our friends about what is going on, he doesn't act like he wants to confide, but he gets mad that they ask me what's going on and don't ask him.
I think it's a combination of guilt and depression and poopy-alien-thinking. Sounds like your H has a dose of that too.
If you don't think you should be buying a new television, don't let it happen. My H went on a buying frenzy when he left. Sure I made out like a bandit, but I had to make him stop, because it wasn't good for his finances or my ego.
Of course it's easier to DB with someone you are in contact with, but I think the pressure will be off of both of you once he finally moves. In the meantime, makes some plans that don't include him. Give yourself some breathing room. Take care, z
