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Originally Posted By: Thinker
Mrs. Thinker and I had to go to a wake for an acquaintance tonight - a relative of a friend had passed away.

As we left, we both commented on how fun and lively the atmosphere had been when compared to post death visitations we had been to in the past. She joked, "Can I throw a party with our friends at your party? You can throw one for mine." to which I replied "sure, get a keg. If you die first should I serve wine or champagne?" Definitely champagne, she replied".


Wait!

Stop!!

Rewind!!!

Did she just make an unintentional plan to spend the rest of our lives together?

...

oops

...

With 8 days to Retro, the atmosphere is light and friendly.

Still no babysitter though... frown


Good sign, probably.


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Yep, step 2 - become friends again. Spending time together and shared humor go a long way.


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"Can I throw a party with our friends at your party? You can throw one for mine."


I just noted a typo in what I wrote above, what she said was

""Can I throw a party with our friends at your wake? You can throw one for mine."

It was a fun joke - kind of like "When we die, let's not make our funerals somber events, let's have them be fun and lively"


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Yep, step 2 - become friends again. Spending time together and shared humor go a long way.


Man, I am NECK DEEP in this right now. Learning to claw my way out.

But you are right Coach. this step has to be there before you can move on.


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Personally, I have been finding being friendly and friends, but not being lovers, to be REALLY hard - my biggest struggle.


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Originally Posted By: Thinker
Personally, I have been finding being friendly and friends, but not being lovers, to be REALLY hard - my biggest struggle.



I agree. Not real sure of a lot of things b/c at times, it FEELS normal.


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Personally, I have been finding being friendly and friends, but not being lovers, to be REALLY hard - my biggest struggle.



I agree. Not real sure of a lot of things b/c at times, it FEELS normal.


That's Step 3! Rekindle the romance. It's worth the wait.


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Coach posted this on SP's Thread

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I am now aware and trying to practice love without expectations, meeting my wife's needs because I want to and being responsible for my own happiness.



Back to the basics - a (re)new(ed) mantra.


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Originally Posted By: givingitmyall
Originally Posted By: Thinker
Personally, I have been finding being friendly and friends, but not being lovers, to be REALLY hard - my biggest struggle.



I agree. Not real sure of a lot of things b/c at times, it FEELS normal.


That's Step 3! Rekindle the romance. It's worth the wait.


Now, if I could just find some kindling....

I'm with you.


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Now, if I could just find some kindling....


You already have it.


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