SHOULD I STOP COOPERATING WITH THE DIVORCE/CONDO SALE?
Last nite I met w/ my W's cousin, who introduced us 10 yrs ago. I was careful not to tell him about the SA my W is having with the OM, but he knows we're separated and have lawyered up. He's convinced she's in the wrong.
First, he said I should have never moved out last month. (I've read that here too.) I've heard mixed opinions on whether I was right leaving 9/4 to spare my kids a scene, or whether I should have made her and the kids leave to go her parents house (5 min away).
Next, he said something I hadn't considered. STOP COOPERATING! He said if you're going to fight for your M, why am I allowing our condo to be sold? He feels that will be a major psychological break with the M (as if an SA isn't!! which I did not say to him).
I don't know the ramifications if I back out against the realtor's agreement, but the realtor is a good friend of mine.
In the DB/DR world, can I stall? Should I stall? Should I stop going along with this?
FYI, my W seems to have slumped into depression after the OM broke it off (to take care of his suicidal W). I've asked my W if she's had any further contact with the OM. She just breaks down painfully crying and says no, like I'm pouring salt in a wound. But I have no reason to believe contact has stopped based on how addicted she got to this guy in such a short period. A close friend of mine and my W's suggested my W needs a few weeks to get him out of her system. But I don't know if she can.
So...please tell me if I should do a 180 and stop cooperating with this home sale??? Thx
