I know that your advice is more geared towards MLC and I should probably move over there. The reason I don't is that I have jumped around so much that I just need a home...lol. I came to the conclusion my wife was really in an MLC about a year ago...prior to that I thought she was more a WAW or orientation confused spouse. Once I started researching MLC...too many unexplainable actions started to become explainable.
The wife does fit the criteria pretty good. A traumatic childhood scarred by a divorce and an abusive relationship with a brother. The trigger of moving long distance twice in a year. A long term bad relationship with her son. It all just feel into place...even the stages of MLC matched up with our move down here and the stages she went through. I would really say my wife is in MLC from October of 2006 to today.
Right now I think she is is teetering on the withdrawal stage, but I am just worried. I have been at this awhile and the baby steps are so far and few in between. She will actually just start crying because she hates it here so much. Then I worry if she will actually be able to make it through the withdrawal stage. She has surrounded herself with so many people who seem to be stuck in MLC also. People who focus on partying and such. I know that I need to live my life, but I have reached the point that I know that I deserve more. My children deserve more and I need advice on how to set boundaries more effectively. Going dark has had minimal returns and I feel like my nose is continually rubbed into her crap...
I also now my current mood is my usual pattern. About every 4-6 weeks I get fatigued with trying to run a business, take care of house and kids, and focus on myself. Then I blow up...so this weekend my focus is to keep from blowing up and starting a relationship discussion.
