O'Dog, Haven't followed your sitch and I really don't post here much anymore, but the dates that you posted caught my eye. Looks like had about 6 months more months than my marriage (9/17/94 - 6/17/09).
That final decree is a strange thing isn't it? A great burden lifted, but it really doesn't feel good. Just wanted to give a little boost here and let you know that good things can and will come. Disintangle yourself from her. Focus on you and the kids. My ex move out last April, so I've had about a year and a half of experiencing the dating scene again. It can be fun, but can also be a bit discouraging. I met someone this past weekend that I really clicked with and she feels the same. I feel like a teenager again. Very strange, but very good.
Good thinks will come for you. Time to make some lemonade.