Thanks Kalni. I'm doing fine right now. As above, we have these 'calm zones'. STBXW is too engrossed with her school now which is a plus for me since she goes to her mother's house to do her work and papers (or does she?). I enjoy the time and peace.
Back to school is tough:
S9 has religious school on M and W afternoons. I have dedicated those 2 hours on Wed's to my daughter, "daddy/daughter" time. D6 gets to call the shots (to a degree, lol)
Tues' I am running S9 to a fall baseball instructional league and it is 30-45 mins away.
Fri is D6's soccer practice and games are on Sat
I am doing S9's sax practice daily; STBXW does D6's piano
As I come down to the wire, I still have my moments of sadness for the demise of my marriage and the impending loss of our home and the division of the children. However, I also see more clearly the personality issues my STBXW has. In retrospect, my STBXW was hurt deeply as a child...she was bullied...and her parents ran to her defense. This is ongoing. I am in agreement with my IC that, once she became unhappy, I was stratified...categorized..into good/bad. Once placed into the bad category, I became a bully..just like she faced on the schoolbus in her past. She is unable to move past this, even in trying to achieve a coparenting position.
I long for this to be over. Ironically, I am looking forward to STBXW leaving. I don't look forward to coming home to an empty house or apt., but, I DO look forward to a new start. I will close down here following the signing of the agreement, whenever that comes about. Hopefully, this will happen before the trial date, Dec. 03.
This has dragged on TOO long: bomb May '06, filed 12/07, still under the same roof 10/09.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
