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[billclay18]

Anyways, with that crazy rambling, this could be an opportunity. Maybe do some research into what the courts would do financially for you both with 50/50 child split. Show her how much different it's going to be when you governed by the courts as to what you and she will be obligated to be responsible for. Show her how tight things are going to continue to be. Not in a threatening kind of way, but use this as an opportunity for a reality check and the opportunity to show her you are looking at life with her as a divorced co-parenting unit......Confused?

I definitely see how this can be an eye opener for both the LBS or WAS, however the LBS can't show the WAS anything. It will be perceived as pressure, coercion, etc. This is a reality that must evolve on it's own. Unfortunately sometimes that doesn't happen until it's too late. As I stated earlier, my exW wanted and expected 20% of my income in CS in spite of having a 50/50 agreement and she continued with that expectation for 18 months until the day we went to court, the judge made his ruling of $162/mth and our D was finalized. She was a victim of her own unrealistic expectations or some bad legal counsel. Had she not been, maybe the reality of the potential outcome could have changed things.

My current W recently emailed me regarding her expectation that she's entitled to any equity in the house from the time we were married until I sell it (the house was mine before we got married). I explained to her back in June that the house had dropped significantly over the past 4 yrs. That should be obvious to anyone given the real estate market, however she chose to raise the issue again. So in an effort to drive the point home I let her know I'd be happy to split the equity with her...positive or negative equity. While I have no intentions of expecting her to share the loss with me, I'm hoping this will put an end to this discussion, plus it's my trump card. This is just another example of the unfounded expectations some spouses have regardless of the obvious facts right in front of them.

I guess it doesn't hurt to discuss these issues with your spouse, just don't be surprised if they don't hear it.