Did any of you see the article on today's MSN? It was how to tell if you were having an emotional affair. It described the condition I was in to a Tee when I got into my EA. It is amazing how many people are doing this and I don't know if it is due to so many women being mixed in the same workforce with the men or if it is the pressures on families these days......or maybe all of it together. Sure is sad to see homes crumbling so fast.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Hi Puppy. There is a newcomer that wants advice in how to find out W is contacting OM and I don't know all that technology stuff that I've heard you talk about. Would you drop by his thread and tell him some ways that would help him track his W's activity? Thanks
His thread is Newcomer hurting badly by Decoy.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Just a few hugs for you today. I was stopping in to check on Sam, and I couldn't come by with visiting you for a second too.
I'm good...I think the last time I posted you asked about dating. I've not been...I'm not ready for that. But, I do have what I'm calling a "practice" lunch date tomorrow. He's a friend of a friend's friend. We've chatted on the phone for a few minutes, and he seems nice. He's recently single as well and in need of single friends. So, we'll see. While I'm healing, I'm certainly not whole enough for another relationship. So, if he hints anything other than a friendship, I probably won't see much of him!!!
On the ex-H front...he told me on Saturday (in a very loud and angry voice) at my little man's football game that she was "too stupid to work the video camera." She was right behind him and heard him say it. I had to smile inwardly...in 15 years, he never called me stupid, and he never called me out in public. I'm thinking things aren't going so well there.
My babies are adjusting well. I think in the end they will grow up to be fine, young men. I do catch myself sometimes punishing them for their father's sins...at least twice I've punished more harshly for lying than for anything else. And I said both times, "I will not be lied to in this house." I know that was a result of his behavior. I felt horrible both times, but the reality is, that they need to know lying's not okay. So, all in all, maybe it wasn't that bad to punish more for that.
I'm hoping you and your family are doing well. I'm praying for you always!
Much, much love to you and yours! Amy
Me 39 H 36 S 7 S 4 T 15 M 12 H out 8/1/08 OW confirmed 8/6/08 D final on 6/12/09...I'm doing good!
I have decided to change my signature line b/c I wonder if it may be read with a different POV by some. I don't know if I'll word this properly, or even if it will be understood clearly, but I'm going to try it out.
It is a waste of time trying to do what you feel should work--vs what will work with your spouse. Do what works!
