Thanks guys, I know you are all right in your thinking (and z, i'm impressed, you remember the song, I'll have to learn the rest of the words.
After coffee with my FF, who is quite opinionated, but also doesn't sugar coat thing, here theory is men need to be needed. And H doesn't feel needed, he feels excluded from this family. That came up again tonight in our conversation, that last Fall he felt he wasn't part of this family, with my parents living here and him gone 5-6 days a week. So I thought I would experiment with telling him outright that I need him. Making him feel important. Thought it was an avenue I haven't taken, as, to be totally honest, because he has travelled and worked so much in the past, I can cope on my own. So I struggle with being too independent and there is reason in this, my excluding him from the kids and my life. But, then the other part of me screams that he is an adult, he could have spoken up and said something before this hit crisis point.
I will manage in Orlando airport, it won't be fun dragging the kids through an airport at midnight, but I can do it. And I did rent a convertible. Unfortunantely I waited too long to book on site hotels, so still need to make reservations for the last three nights.
So, when H doesn't come, do I tell the kids the truth (Dad doesn't want to vacation with mommy) or tell them he has to work and is very sad to miss this trip. What is the right way to approach this?
Thanks everyone for all your help and words of wisdom, I have a journal I'm keeping with all the things to remember when I feel like I'm at the end of my rope.
