What about asking him to plan the visits with DD? So he cant just pop in? And dont beat yourself up over the roller coaster, we have all been there and probably will be there at least a few more times!
He is being extremely selfish right now, its pretty common, once they get to the WAS stage, you are the obstacle to his happiness, its all your fault and they think that what they have done and continue to do is justified! It is sick, and twisted, and theres no way to reason with it!
So this approach is really all you can do. Im sure that he notices whats happening, he may not show it, but he wonders what you are up to, and you are making yourself a more attractive person, so that when he comes out of this fog hes in, you get to decide what your going to do. I heard once that you should take this time to make yourself into the kind of woman that an man would be crazy to not want to be with!
Sooo... its friday... whatcha doin over the weekend? (You had to know I would ask!)
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
