Jackie, as painful as it sounds Cupcake is right. He needs the time and space, you are going to have to let him go (but leave the back door open...). Hopefully he will wake up soon and realize where his heart and his life is. But I do not see how to avoid some degree of separation
So, be strong for yourself and the kids. We are all here for you when you need to vent.
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
