Update on the C, I wrote him an email discussing my concerns and he called me to discuss it. He reassured me he was working for a reconciliation, so I'll believe him. He also told me H has accepted a joint session next week.
I forgot about my H being an alien, and I slipped and contacted him saying I will go to the joint session with the C. I should have let the C do that. I hate this... I forget that I'm not dealing with a "normal" person. I'll wait for him to contact me next. I know he'll be skiddish after accepting a joint session with me and going to IC.
I'm starting to really appreciate that he left the house. It would be really hard to deal with it every day. I do want him back, but I need to learn more DBing and get stronger before he gets here if he does.
M40, H39 M17 T20 D13, S12 H moved out 05/09 D filed 1/10