I knew the nice H wouldn't last. Mr. Hyde is back. H yelled at S5 at dinner, I asked him not to raise his voice at S (as I've asked a thousand times) and H starts yelling at me. I tried all my boundary setting phrases ("you will not talk to me like that - please leave - we can talk about this later when we're calm - you are being mean, now stop it - " and many more. Only enraged H more.
DB lesson - what isn't working: setting boundaries. Need to say nothing or leave. That's my plan next time.
H got enraged, stormed out of dinner, called me every name in the book. Called me crazy. Told me I always have and will be crazy and the problem is me and that is why he's taking care of Ding me. Told me I live in my own warped universe and nobbdy will ever understand me. He refuses to listen to or talk to me about this issue because there's no point talking to a crazy person. Threatened to up the D stakes again - said I can talk to his L instead of him. Then said I was threatening him (by setting the boundary of stop yelling and insulting or leave). He just went off his rocker.
I took a time out - a drive in the neighborhood - and then we all went to the pumpkin patch because we promised S5, and things mellowed a little.
I'm at my wits end. Only thing to do is avoid him, not talk to him. I WILL NOT INITIATE AN APOLOGY OR TALK. Either he will or I will wait until he goes to MC if he ever gets there. I cannot talk to him wihtout him being abusive, so unless he approaches me, this will be my 180.
I'm hiding in my room as H puts S to bed, tremendously sad. H is whistling and laughing and joking around like nothing happened. I guess I need to face that D is the for the best if he's not willing to be mature and kind.
