Hope writing the list of good things about her will help! It's been a positive thing for me.
Also let me pass on something someone here said to me a few days ago...it's not a bad thing that she doesn't trust that you've truly changed - she's noticed your changes! That's a good thing! It takes time and keeping up those new actions & GALing to win her trust back. Have you read or listened to Light her Fire yet? We seem to have in common that a few years ago it was us who were questioning whether the marriage would work - this is a slightly different situation than some others who post here. I've found that although not everything is appropriate for me to do at this time, Light His Fire has helped me GAL while also ensuring I'm showing H that I care about him. It keeps reminding me to focus on the positives.
