I disagree. she's trying to figure out what she has left.
If she is talking with her friend about travelling and enjoying the company of other men, ie. (sex... shhhhhh!), I don't see how she is trying to figure out what she has left - explain that to me because I don't see it.
not that you're going to see my point, rob, but I think all that is still figuring out what she has left--of herself, of her attractiveness, of her own mojo.
listen, I'm just trying to tell you what I hear as a woman. and yeah, I'm totally the LBS, fyi--I'm not defending myself or any past bad behavior. Because I think it still comes down to (per Stosny) connecting with our own compassion, and then deciding how to respond. If that's ultimately saying "buh-bye you're completely irrelevant" then so be it, but one should consider the screen (anger, bitterness perhaps, rob?) through which we're filtering our input before making a response that affects The Rest of Their Lives for Themselves, as well as ourselves. Indeed it's unfortunate that Mrs. SP didn't do the same, but then it's not she who is posting on this board right now.
And you see hoosiermama, that is why I asked the question, looking for an answer. It could be the right or wrong answer, it could be a way for us to cope with our own feelings but at least you provided it. Thank you for sharing, it's not a bad viewpoint. I have read some of Stosny's teachings, he also is of the approach that you should leave the partner that doesn't value the other person's feelings, I'm pretty sure that is Stosny.
