that's one way to look at it, I suppose. and we all project our own agendas and subsequent agendas on others. I just don't read this as her being emotionally capable of being so manipulative or intentional.
I've been following the entire thread (threads), she started this all as everything being SP's fault, making him feel guilty for everything, listing all of his inadequacies, she flexed her muscles and SP pursued for a bit, tried to show a different SP but she wasn't impressed or interested because she had signor in the background. She tried to make him feel guilty for accepting marital support when the legal paperwork starts flying and then when he... GASP! ... says ummm... no I'll take the money because i don't think I'll feel guilty about any of this anymore she gets angry at him.
WAS's who have affairs are both manipulative & doing things intentionally. Lying, cheating, and doing everything they can to pursue "feeling good" at the expense of their spouses and their intent isn't to be fair or friendly, it's to leave their spouse in the dust that settles after the WAS whirlwind action.
