Hey Nell, You might be having a hard time with DBing but it's great that you were able to hold off and post here first about the emails. I know how easy it is to look at other people's situation and think of what to say....but much harder to get perspective on our own stuff - we're so emotional and it's hard to get past the emotions to see what will really be helpful for us to do.
You don't have to follow this or agree but IMHO looking at his emails as a third party, the thing that I think would most 180 & shock him would be to simply reply with one email to all three and have it be short, positive, & breezy along the lines of:
Hi Husband!
Things are fine. Gave it some thought and don't think I'll need your help with the tribrunal but I appreciate the offer of help.
Take Care! Nell
(It is a major drag going to court on your own but surviving court on your own or with your sis could be a confidence building experience...if he divorces you, you'd have to handle court on your own or with support of your family, right? I kinda use this thought as a double-check for deciding some of my actions..."If he divorced me, would I likely do this action even though I never did when married?" If yes then I give it a try...so far this rule seems to be very helpful for me.)
