My Intro: Thanks for Reading!

[billclay18]

A&K...this was a response to ClingingtoHope, not RSF. If because of his W's long hours, he is the primary care giver, spending more time (and $$$) with and on the kids, why not? If he's filling the role...put it on paper. From a legal, custody agreement standpoint, why shouldn't he be the custodial parent.

In my case, if I have my D half the time or more, why would I sign an agreement saying I'm not the custodial parent, thus paying the statutory 20% in CS? If you read my story above, my exW wanted 20% of my net income in spite of our 50/50 shared custody agreement. We were already splitting the cost of putting roofs over her head, clothes on her back, food on the table, extracurricular activities, daycare, medical costs, etc. On top of that she wanted 20% of my income. The judge saw what she was doing and awarded her 20% of the difference in our incomes.

All I'm saying is the legal agreement should be consistent with the actual day-to-day agreement. I've seen too many dads that have an 80/20 custody agreement with the standard 20% in CS, yet spend much more time with their kids and incur the related costs of that time.