How can WAS put themselves before their children?

[MrBond]

bridgestone,

Thanks for the two cents.

"continued to deny my reality"

But what if the S never told us what their reality was? What if they perhaps didn't develop the coping mechanisms that allowed them to open up in the first place? I think that's what many of us feel.

My wife is of the "you should have known" mentality. And I've told her numerous times before I am not a mindreader and to just say what is bothering her.

Of course the denial of her A is what I don't get. It's like she's denying it to herself. And that it must've been the marriage that drove her to that point.

Strange creatures the WAS sometimes.

But it doesn't stop me from still trying to be compassionate to her even now. I see a person who is hurting and is trying to escape from that hurt by shedding her old self. Only problem is she's running so fast that she hasn't stopped to think what she is hurting from.